Dealing with Negative or Unwanted Feedback:
We would be lying if we haven’t had to deal with unwanted feedback once in our lives. But how do deal with it? Chrissy Scivicque (2012) has produced the perfect ‘Recipe’ to deal with this feedback, so next time a colleague approaches you with negative comments about how you’re running your classroom:
1. Recognise what it’s worth
Behind the negative attitude and comments, does this person have a point that would actually help you? There may just be some information in there that is constructive. However, if the comments or suggestions are more personal and hurtful, simply ‘brush it off’ and refer back to ‘Stress Relieving Tools’.
2. Consider the Source
Who has given you the feedback? For example, if a colleague walks into your classroom and tells you how to put your desks for an effective learning experience, but in the form of a personal attack or negative comment, consider what they are saying and thank them, but reflect on whether there classroom is something to really go off? Is he/she running ‘the perfect classroom’?
3. Pull on your big girl (or boy) pants
After reflecting on the worth and the source of the feedback, detach yourself from the emotional side effects to these negative comments and feedback and ‘shake it off’. You are a professional and you know what’s best for your students! Believe in yourself!
4. List and Gain Clarity
Stop. Listen to what this person is telling you and refrain from defence or attack. If they aren’t portraying their feedback in a way that you understand, ask them to explain it again and ask for suggestions. Even if you aren’t ever going to consider this feedback, make them think that you are. Positive Workplace relationships are essential!
5. Make Use Of It
When evaluating its ‘worth’ in step one, maybe there is something that you could take from this feedback, even though it was given in a negative manner. You could possibly even take a ‘how NOT to give feedback’ example from it.
6. Let Go of Perfection
Perfection is somewhat impossible, particularly in the classroom. There will be good days and there will be days of absolute chaos. Believe in your capability to be a fantastic teacher and let go of having ‘perfect lesson’ and ‘perfect programs’ each and every time.